We Grieve Differently

We grieve for different reasons; it could be as a result of a loss of a loved one, heart break, losing a job, loss of friendship, or even when things don’t go way we want them to.

If you notice, when someone loses his/her loved one, each member of the family/friends of the deceased grieve differently. And when 2 people lose their jobs, they handle the situation differently; this is normal because people are different and wired to process things differently.

There is no standard grieving process for everyone. Just because you see others grief differently, doesn’t mean they’re not hurting.

Worst things to say to a griever:

• I know how you feel.
• Look at the bright side; there is a reason for everything.
• This shouldn’t weigh you down.
• You look like you’re handling it better than expected.
• Cheer up, we move.
• Stop crying.
• You’ll be fine.
• Just move on.
• Are you still thinking about what happened?
• You just have to be strong.

What to say instead:

• I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’m here for you if you need me (don’t just say it, mean it).
• Words cannot express how sad I feel about the situation.
• Do you want to talk about it?
• It’s okay if you’re not ready to talk about it.

Whenever you’re going through a tough phase, talk to the right person about it (family, a friend or a therapist).

If you know someone going through a tough phase, check up on them. If they can’t open up to you immediately, give them time. Don’t be quick to fix things or give unsolicited advise. Remember, everyone is different.

Yours truly, Grace ♡